Human Relations: Death of Friendship Call it Lack of Proper Time Management or Change in behavior or attitude of Human Being; Call it Gift of 21st Century or Our Greediness ; Call it Being Opportunistic or Facing Cut-Throat Competition Call it a step to Avoid Over Commitment or a precautionary measure Call it by any name but Human Relations are dying and the first one to go is Friendship. In the present century, when we all are busy, we all are running behind growth and prosperity; during the time when people dont have time for their family members, time when parents are not having time for their kids; spouses see each other only on weekends; youngsters are too busy in making best of the available opportunities and dont have time for their parents/elders; when you meet your siblings only the time of festivals or family functions, do you think that you have time for your friends? Time is a constraint. So, the question here is that do we really need friends? Or we just need people to use them as a ladder for our success and growth? Do you remember, in your school days, whom do you use to reach for your homework? Do you know, in your college life, who use to give your attendance, in your absence? Did you ever-said thanks to those people? We have become selfish. We are in competition with everybodyknown or unknown; family or friendsand at times this is not a healthy competition. Someone asked me, Friendship? Which ship is this? So, dear friendsfriendship is a ship which takes to safely to the shore when sea is not silent; when waves are highwhen there is Tsunami. Friends can be from anywhere in the world, of any race, religion, and gender or any age. We all know that in the world, at times families and relatives are not able to help us at the time when we actually needits during that time we need friends. But, we human are having tendency that we assume things around us as permanent. Friends, nothing is permanent. If you have struggled your way from bad time to good timethen even good time is also not here to stayit will also change. You used few people, by calling them as your friends, while moving up in your career, never acknowledging their efforts, support or help. So, when you fall again, who will support youwho will be with you? Your friends. Friendship is a strange thing. We find ourselves telling our friends the deepest details of our lives...things we don't even share with our families who raised us. But what is a friend? A confidant? A lover? A shoulder to cry on? An ear to listen? A heart to feel?A friend is all these things...and more. No matter where we met, I call you friend. A word so small...yet so large in feeling. A word filled with emotion. It is true, great things come in small packages. On the subject of friendship between males and females you can read my write-up Can a Male and Female be JUST Friends? at http://ezinearticles.com/?Can-a-Male-and-Female-be-JUST-Friends?&id=39392 I have seen people; many people also came to me at the time when they were in needneed of any help, any informationsaying that they want to be friendly with me. If I helped themthey moved onnever turned back even to say thanks and if I refused to helpthey gave some ill wishes and again moved on. That is opportunistic friendship. I understand that we are busy and we all are running against the time. We dont have time to even take care of our family and ourselves. But, friendsone call, just one call in a month or one SMS in a week, is all that it takes to be in touch with your friends. Let them feel speciallet them feel happy about this relationship. You never know, when you need people around youwhen you need the support of your friends. Just be in touch with them. Once again, it is not a lecture or advice. I am not preaching. It is your life and it is for you to decide with whom you want to be in touch with and when. It is difficult to find good people. It is more difficult to have such people as your friends. If you have such good people as your friends, stay in touch with them and never lose them. A small gift and a dear friend: I am fortunate enough to have quite a few good people around me and they are my friends. This write-up is dedicated to one such friend of mine, Shankar Anappindi. Dada, when my life was all zig-zagthings were not moving in the way I wanted them to moveand I was in need of support, I looked around and there were no one. Then, one hand came from the backto hold my handto give me all that I was need at that time. It was you. I am thankful to you for all that you have done for me. It is because of that support, that confidencethat love and care that today I am standing here. In the world where even close relations do not support and care, you came as an angel into my life. Once again thanks a lot. You are a flower in my garden that makes up my bouquet. My friends, you all make a very impressive display Looking forward to your comments and opinion. With love and care |
